Based on 1 Corinthians 7:10-24 (New King James Version)
“Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches. Was anyone called while circumcised? Let him not become uncircumcised. Was anyone called while uncircumcised? Let him not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing, but keeping the commandments of God is what matters. Let each one remain in the same calling in which he was called. Were you called while a slave? Do not be concerned about it; but if you can be made free, rather use it. For he who is called in the Lord while a slave is the Lord’s freedman. Likewise he who is called while free is Christ’s slave. You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state in which he was called.”
One of the first things we can see in this passage is that the Lord is a God of order, of structure, and that, in order to honor and glorify His name, we must seek to live His way. And this is one of the great benefits God brings to our lives through repentance and conversion (because this is the foundation of the Gospel of God through Christ): “Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord, and that He may send Jesus Christ, who was preached to you before.” Acts 3:19-20. God, through the power of the Holy Spirit and the wisdom of His Word, not only comes to bring order into our spiritual life, but also our physical life. He seeks to work in both the eternal and the temporal, because that is how the eternal begins to take shape within us. Without carnal order, there can be no spiritual order. Before coming to Christ, our lives were destroyed and meaningless, formless, with only one destination: the road to hell. Our lives were a mess before Christ, and headed for a worse, eternal state. We were just like our planet before God spoke the Words that would change everything, as it is written: “The earth was without form, and void; and darkness was on the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters.” Genesis 1:2.
Everything created, even everything we see today, is precious and admirable, precisely because of the order God established through His word. And despite the corruption of sin in the world, today we have beautiful things to admire and enjoy, thanks to God's order. These include mountains, rivers, valleys, animals, trees, flowers, and so many other things. They are all what they are and are in their place, fulfilling their function, thanks to the order God established. The wonder of the human body and its functions: everything works as God intended; everything has its place; everything has its value, in which we have the physical as well as the spiritual, the temporal as well as the eternal. So, the order and structure God created was not made to torment man or to make life difficult, but quite the contrary. What God made was so good that even within this fallen, corrupt, and temporal world, we can make everything count for what truly matters, for the invisible (at the moment) and the eternal. Let's take a good look at our true enemy. Our enemy is neither God nor what He establishes, but rather sin and death, which go hand in hand with the enemy—Satan. God brings order so that there may be life, and Satan disrupts so that death may prevail. That's why this issue, if a person is born one way but feels they should be something else, doesn't come from God, but from something else, as a result of the disorder the enemy fosters to destroy what God has made, and as such, lead man to destroy himself, not only temporarily, but eternally. Why? Because the enemy seeks to have plenty of company in his eternal condemnation. God didn't necessarily create the everlasting fire for man, but the Word says this: “Then He will also say to those on the left hand, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels.” Matthew 25:41. God does not necessarily send people to hell, but rather, people decide their own destiny when they choose out of their own free will to follow the disorder that the enemy incites through temptation. On the day of judgment, the Lord will only fulfill each person's desires: to those who chose to love God more than everything else, He will give them eternal life with Him, but to those who loved the world and darkness more, He will also give the consequence that this brings: spending all eternity with the enemy and his demons.
Now, God teaches us through His Word what we must do to return to His order, to finally do His will. In the passage, He teaches us some things that married couples should follow, for the benefit of both. We must clarify here that the word "separation" is often misinterpreted as "divorce." Separation can occur within the same home, or even when living in different places, but it is not synonymous with divorce. And the only justification for divorce before God is when there is adultery, and the one who suffered the offense has the right to marry again, if they so choose, with another person who has not committed adultery. Thus said the Lord: “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality [the act of adultery], and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9. If there's anything in great disorder today, especially within our churches, is marriage. God created marriage, and it must be respected as such. If it's not carried out as God intended, it will bring great disorder to your life and your family. And we've already seen who incites disorder.
Finally, and most importantly, whatever our situation or condition, if we desire to be pleasing to God through the Lord Jesus Christ, we must seek to fulfill what He tells us through His Word, doing our best within our means to live for the Lord, considering Him in every aspect of our lives. This is what the Lord died for, as it is written: “For none of us lives to himself, and no one dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and rose and lived again, that He might be Lord of both the dead and the living.” Romans 14:7-9. And it also says: “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.” Matthew 7:21. So, do you contemplate the Lord's will in every aspect of your life, to do as He says, for your own eternal good? Lord bless! John. God bless Israel!